Author: Rev. Peter Cusick
Albert Einstein is quoted as saying: “Weak people revenge. Strong people forgive. Intelligent people ignore.”
In my circles, an interesting thing happens on occasion—it happened to me two Sundays ago. I had two people come up to me with an apology. One of them had, the previous Sunday, called me a suck, when I told a funny story about my adventure into an MRI machine. I’m okay with being called a suck and I promptly forgot about it. She however, didn’t. She was an older lady who spent the week beating herself up about this, and decided the next Sunday she would come with an apology. Her openings statement: “I want to apologize for what I said last Sunday.” I immediately ran through the corridors of my mind searching for how she had offended me and came up with nothing. I said to her, “Really, for what?” She explained she called me a suck, and I simply told her, “Yes, that’s true!” But she insisted she shouldn’t have called me that!
Five minutes later a repeat story of a person apologizing for something that I hadn’t a clue what she was talking about. The reason for all this carrying on is this: relationship is very important.
Now Mr Einstein makes an interesting contribution to this as noted above. I’m thinking that the strong and intelligent people are worth following here. I have spent many an hour speaking with clients who want revenge. All revenge does is injure and deepen wounds. Strong people however, may indeed be the superstars in this scenario. Everyone has the power and capability to forgive. Most people cannot forgive, or more precisely do not forgive, because they have confused choice with emotion. Forgiveness is not an emotion, forgiveness is a choice. Intelligent people make a contribution as well—just ignore. But my vote is for strength. Everyone can be strong, it’s a matter of choice. And that, is something to think about.